Setting Boundaries with Customers
Hours, response times and scope creep — how to hold the line politely.
Notes from Randall Harper. Thirty years working alongside owner-operators, executives and boards — companies of all types and sizes — across entertainment & media, hospitality, service based business, lifestyle businesses, financial services, retail and not-for-profit, in Australia, Asia, the United Kingdom and the United States. What follows is the thinking I keep returning to.
Customers will take what you allow
Most boundary problems in small businesses are not the customer's fault; they are the owner's. The owner who answers emails at 10pm trains every customer to expect a 10pm response. The owner who absorbs scope creep silently trains every customer to expect free upgrades. Boundaries are not set by hoping customers will respect them; they are set by the owner's behaviour, repeated until it becomes the expectation.
The boundaries worth setting
- Business hours — when you respond, and when you don't.
- Response time — within 24 hours during business hours, not within 24 minutes.
- Scope changes — written and quoted, never absorbed without conversation.
- Payment terms — applied consistently, even to customers you like.
- Emergency definition — what genuinely counts as an emergency, and what doesn't.
Communicate the boundaries
Customers cannot respect rules they don't know about. An out-of-hours auto-reply, business hours on the website, payment terms on every quote — small communication choices that make the rules visible and impersonal. 'Our office hours are 8am to 5pm' lands better than 'I won't answer your email tonight' because it is policy, not personal preference.
Defend boundaries warmly
Holding a boundary does not require being cold. When a customer pushes against one — asking for after-hours work, requesting scope creep, paying late again — the firm response can be warm. 'I'd love to help with that, here's how we'd quote it' protects the boundary while preserving the relationship. The cold response often comes from having let the boundary erode too far before addressing it.
The customers who can't respect them
A small subset of customers will push against every boundary, no matter how reasonably it is set. These customers are usually the most exhausting and least profitable in the portfolio. Owners often hesitate to part with them out of misplaced loyalty. The cumulative impact of one boundary-disrespecting customer over a year is usually larger than the revenue they bring; doing the maths honestly often clarifies the decision.
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